What to Expect If You Date a Thai Man.
Thai Men Are Good Boyfriends but Dating One Can Be Frustrating
The Difference in Thai and Western Culture Can Make Dating a Thai Man a Bit of a Challenge.
I've lived in Thailand for over six years and, during that time, have dated a few Thai men. Dating a Thai man is completely different than dating a western man and, for some western women it can be very frustrating and confusing. If you're dating a Thai man, think you might date a Thai man, or even end up with a Thai husband let me tell you it isn't actually as different as it might seem.
Just be aware of some of the cultural differences and you'll be fine.
Thai Men Are Very Polite - Thai men are much more polite than western men. This is actually why they make good boyfriends. Most of them will treat you very sweetly, always be complimentary (Thais call it having a "sweet mouth") and will very rarely ever be rude to you. When you date a Thai man, you end up feeling like a princess because they are always so polite.
Thai Men Take Care of You - Thai men love taking care of women and they do it very well. If you end up dating a Thai man long enough, you'll find they'll bring you lunch, they'll pick you up and take you to work, pick you up at work and bring you home, take you to the doctor if you're sick and generally always make sure you're fine. If you're a western woman too, Thai men take care of you even more because they want you to have a good impression of Thailand and Thai people.
Thai Men Carry Your Purse and Your Shopping - One thing I've always thought was funny about Thai men is that they will usually carry their girlfriend's purse when they're out shopping. You'll often see otherwise quite-masculine men trotting around the mall with their girlfriend's purse over their shoulder. At first, I used to think "How gay!", but now I think it's sweet as it shows they don't ever want you to carry anything heavy. Also, when you buy any shopping, most girls in Thailand just hand their shopping bags to their Thai boyfriend and he will carry it for them. No point exhausting that delicate female body!
Thai Men Are Funny - Thai men like to laugh a lot and will joke with you continuously. If you can make a Thai guy laugh, they love being with you and will spend as much time with you as they can. Even when things get upsetting or stressful, they will still often laugh about it anyway, as that is the Thai way.
Thai Men Are Very Sensitive - Thai men are more sensitive than western men or, at least, they show it more. I've noticed it seems to be much easier to hurt a Thai man than it does a western man, so you do have to be careful about comments you make. I tend to err on the side of complete kindness as, in the past, innocent little comments have cut my Thai guy to the quick. Remember, your Thai guy is probably very sensitive so be even kinder to him than you're used to being.
Thai Men Don't Lose Their Temper Easily - Thai culture is centered on the idea of 'jai yen' (cool heart), but that doesn't mean what it means in the west. Being 'jai yen' actually means not getting upset about little things, not getting stressed and not showing anger over things you cannot control. Thai men, overall, tend to be very 'jai yen' but, there's also a downside to that. Because they don't show a lot of anger, when they do eventually get angry, their anger can be much scarier than with a western men as they seem to lose all control. Keep your Thai guy calm and relaxed most of the time and you shouldn't have a problem. But get him riled up and upset and I'd recommend leaving him alone until he's had time to calm down, because having to put up with the stomping around, throwing things and screaming is scary and annoying.
Thai Men Are Not Always Faithful - Built into Thai culture is the idea that it's okay for a Thai man to be unfaithful. Most Thai men will have several girlfriends and, even when married, will often have a wife and a 'mia noi' or minor wife. This is why a pretty substantial percentage of Thai women say they have no interest in dating Thai men or having a Thai husband. They know they'll probably be sharing their boyfriend with a couple of other women. My experience has been that, if you can keep your Thai guy happy and challenged, they tend not to stray. But, the minute you show him less than 100% attention and he's likely to wander off in search of other stimulation. Be warned.
Dating Thai men, for me, has been a mostly positive experience. I think they are sweeter, kinder and more polite than almost any western man I've dated and I'm definitely taken care of more. Just make sure you also learn about Thai culture and don't behave in a way that makes your Thai boyfriend 'lose face'. Because, if that happens, it will be very unlikely he'll be around for much longer after that.
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